Thursday, February 15, 2018

Finding Love in 2018!

I have never been real big on Valentine's day. I figure we tell (or SHOULD tell) the people we love how much they mean to us on a regular basis. On Valentine's Day the chocolate, and flower folks are making money, so whatever.
Now that Valentine’s Day is over, let me tell you this real quick story….
Related imageLOVE IS IN THE AIR! I started 2018 with the thought that I was not going to be single anymore. Yes, that means that I am going to start dating. I’m just torn between loneliness and convenience because I love having my bed and space to myself… I’m working on that. But I want someone to talk to… I know, a conundrum.
So now I have to figure out where the men are. I have waited around and no one is just gonna knock on your door like “Hey I’m here, God sent me”. So, where are they???

  • Yea, I don’t go to clubs or bars, but would you really want a guy you met in a bar … (been there, done that)
  • What about the church you say? Wellllllll, sometimes they the same ones from the club! Just Saying!👀
  • You can’t pick up a man at the gym. I heard that was douchy. Besides Y'all both all smelly & sweaty, not a good look.
  • I was hanging out at the grocery store to find dudes but people thought I was homeless and started throwing change at me.
  • Ladies, DO NOT believe those romantic movies, there are no fine men hanging out in museums or art galleries, and security tends to frown on you hanging out in there all day.
  • And I don’t know what the heck Cardi B is talking about because the only thing you get from the stripper pole is rug burn and a nasty rash…. And I found out that making Bloody moves was not at all what I thought it was… Don’t ask.

So as a final and last resort I did it…. Yep, I joined an online dating community!
It is free to join, and you have pictures just sent to you! EASY-PEEZY! YAAAAASSSSSSS, about to find a man in no time!
So I didn’t want to rush it, so I took my time, uploaded a picture, did some thinking when writing my bio and answering the questions about hobbies, likes, dislikes, etc. Pictures, messages, and flirts starting pouring in (flirts are the equivalent of Facebook pokes I guess. You know a "Hey Wassup").  

I felt like Tiffany Haddish... SHE REAAAADDDYYYYY!
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So I went to the messages and clicked on the first one and got a pop up that said, "To read this message upgrade your account"! SERIOUSLY!! Yea it was free to join... and that was it!
So I have 56 Messages, 236 views, 11 matches, and 24 flirts, all of which I can do nothing about unless I pay 29.96 plus tax per month! I was like... Nope, No, Uh uh, Nada, Not happening.

Tomorrow I’m going to buy a damn cat.
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Tuesday, February 13, 2018

Me, Blood, and The Alien Inside

I am super late on posting this, but I did tell someone that I would get the story out there….

This is a long post with some graphic pictures in it HOWEVER stick around and read the ENTIRE THING!

So you may or may not know that I was sick back in September 2017, spent a week in the hospital, and ended up having surgery. So this is that story...

Working is important. We have to work in order to make money in order to survive. Our health is also important and often times we ignore certain signs of things going on in our bodies because we are too busy working.
So a little background/details….
I had a job where I worked 2 hours in the early morning, went home and then came back and worked 5 hours in the afternoon/evening. Having to be at work at 6:30am meant being up at 5am. So I went in at 6:30am and worked until usually 8:30am went home, ate breakfast got back in the bed, woke up and went back to work at 1:30pm and stayed until 6:30pm (sometimes 7pm). This did not include the time I put in having to go to meetings or training, having to shop for supplies, having to go to the corporate office to pick up snacks, having to do paperwork, etc. When I got home in the evenings, I cooked and ate dinner and generally went to bed. Wake up and repeat! On Saturdays, I generally tried to stay in the bed and sleep! And on Sundays, I pretty much tried to mentally prepare for the upcoming week. So as you can see the cycle was basically, EAT, SLEEP, WORK, repeat.
When I started having aches and pains, I attributed it to, stress from a job I hated, or lack of sleep, or age, or just life. I took pain pills and continued on about my business. In the month of September, I started having really bad headaches, which I thought were stress related. I also started having bad pains in the abdominal/stomach/pelvis area. Now, this pain felt familiar and I assumed I knew what it was. Years ago, back in the early 2000’s, I had an episode with my gallbladder. I got with an herbalist, stopped eating beef, changed my diet, took some herbal supplements and eventually passed the small gallstones. Well the pain I was having in September felt similar to that and since I went through this before I already knew how to combat it.

However, the pains increased in frequency and intensity and one morning after my morning shift I went to the ER. At the ER I received an entire litany of tests. The doctor finally came to talk to me and was VERY CONCERNED. He had THAT FACE/THAT LOOK. The look that says there is no coming back from this. He starts out with, did you know you were anemic? I said yes, my previous doctor told me. He said okay, are you taking anything for it? I said well, no, not currently. I had some iron pills prescribed but I finished them all, and the former doctor never put me on more or discussed it again. (I do want to interject here that the former doctor and I had other issues so I ended up getting rid of her.). He says okay…. A few things are going on here. You are not having gallbladder issues. However, there is a mass on your uterus. You are also VERY ANEMIC. Your blood count is at a 5 and it should be at least at or above 9. I’m looking at him like he is crazy and I said okay, but go back to the mass… what is it? He said he couldn’t tell for sure but I needed to make an appointment with my regular doctor ASAP. He could not tell me if the mass was cancerous or benign, that could only be found out by cutting some of the mass and testing it. Do I even need to tell you that I was FREAKING OUT, but trying to stay cool for the family....
Okay, I go in to see my regular doctor, get blood work done, get a referral for an Ob/Gyn, to figure out this mass stuff, and go on home, trying to figure out what my next steps should be. That night (yes about 8 0clock THAT NIGHT) I get a call from my doctor’s office. Now mind you, in order to get this call at night time, the lab people had to think it was so urgent that they called the nurse in my doctor’s office AFTER HOURS who then called me! And the nurse tells me I need to get myself to emergency NOW! My blood work came back and it was now at a 4. Now mind you, I just got done cooking dinner and was ready to grub! So I’m like okay can I just come in tomorrow morning? She says, NO, with this low-level blood count you may not make it until the morning. **DON'T JUDGE ME, I WAS HUNGRY DAMMIT!**
So I already know I am about to be admitted, so I pack me a little overnight bag and hightail it on over to the ER. So, of course, I go through more tests and poking and prodding. They do admit me. So after EKGs, MRIs, CT Scans, the entire alphabet of tests, bottom line…… 
I had a Fibroid Tumor which had grown so large it was pressing on and displacing organs in the abdominal region (which is why I was feeling that pressure of the gallbladder) the tumor was pushing everything out of place.

This THING, this MASS has been sitting in there growing like an alien. Waiting to burst out and kill me. (Y'ALL SAW THAT MOVIE!).
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Anyway, I digress...
I had been having heavy periods (menstrual cycles) for as long as I can remember, however in the past year or two they had gotten ridiculously heavy. I mean, I was wearing two overnight pads, bleeding through them both, blood running down my legs, having to change like every 20 minutes. This contributed to the low iron and low blood count because I was bleeding so much. And my cycle was lasting 2-3 weeks. This alien mass was taking over my body! The entire mass was 1710 grams which equal 3 pounds and 12 ounces. Now you may say to yourself, 3 pounds is not a lot HOWEVER when you think about a 4-pound bag of sugar, take out about a cup of that sugar and the rest of the bag is inside your abdominal area…. Yea that is a lot! And to top that off, I also had cysts on my ovaries and fallopian tubes. So ending result I needed a hysterectomy. However, due to my low blood count, they could not perform surgery and risk me bleeding out what little blood I did have.
So I had to endure a couple days of blood transfusions first. They gave me 5 bags of blood to get my blood levels up and I also had to get a bag of iron. I had to drink a bottle of laxative, to make sure I was empty for surgery. Do you understand the effects that a BOTTLE of laxative has??? So eventually all levels were at a comfortable level to operate. On 9/11/17 I had a full hysterectomy. Full hysterectomy means EVERYTHING OUT (EVERYTHING MUST GO SALE!!) uterus, ovaries, and tubes. But hell after 5 damn kids I don’t need that stuff anymore anyway! Thinking back, 9/11/17 could have been the day I died. The day the ALIEN killed me. but instead, God said NOT SO! So finally the alien was removed...

All tests done on the removed mass proved to be benign PRAISE HIM!!!


But the point of this very long story is GO SEE A DOCTOR! DO NOT self-diagnose, DO NOT assume you know what the pain is. DO NOT think you can continue to put your health on a back burner. DO NOT work yourself to death. DO NOT put off until tomorrow what should be done now, because tomorrow may never come.
Take your vitamins.
See your doctor.
Change (or at least) monitor your diet.

To my earlier point what good is working if you are killing yourself?

Still Alive,

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Sunday, December 31, 2017

Out With The Old, In With The New... Happy 2018!

Well, Hello World! 

It’s been some time since I have been on here. 2017 is about an hour from being over and I don’t know about you but for me, I am not sad to see it go. The latter half of 2017 literally kicked my butt. It feels as if the enemy was on a rampage and it feels as if he stomped through my life with cleats on.

But I’m still here. Some people did not make it this far but I am happy to say that my time here is not up yet. My assignment is not over. The enemy tried it but was unsuccessful in taking me out. The enemy truly comes to Steal, Kill, and Destroy.  I have seen my children attacked by the enemy, my sister attacked by the enemy, my health being attacked. Job… Gone, Finances… Zero, Stress & Depression…Knocking at the door (Keep knocking, but you can’t get in…)

My sister was in the hospital...

My daughter was in the hospital...

I was in the hospital...
I was told, “How are you still walking around, you should be dead”. And yet, here I am still.

As 2017 hurtles toward an end, I find myself Unemployed, Single, Broke, and wondering, “What The hell is going on with my life”? 

Life is not a meme, and I can’t just step into 2018 and say, YAAAASSSSSSS, Living my BEST Life!

I have some things to do, some things to change, some things to improve. But I have that chance because NO MATTER WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE OR FEELS LIKE I AM STILL BLESSED! I am not dead so I have the chance to continue on living, to continue trying, to continue experiencing life, making changes, making memories. Maybe one day I WILL get to that point when I can TRULY say I AM LIVING MY BEST LIFE!

But for now, as in a book, 2017 is the old chapter. It is time to put the last PERIOD on that chapter and TURN THE PAGE! 2018 is A NEW CHAPTER! As I walk into 2018, I walk into it BOLDLY, ready to face life and what is ahead.
To anyone reading this I say… 
HAPPY 2018!



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Sunday, January 29, 2017

And STILL God's Got This!

MAN!!! What a Day, What a Week, What a Month! As this month draws to a quick end bare with me while I rant a little...

So on Saturday the 21st I had oral surgery, the actual process went well. HOWEVER, the healing process is NOT going the way I or the surgeon thought it would go. I am often tired, often nauseous, my equilibrium is slightly off, and I am experiencing various side effects from medication. I went back to the dentist on the 23, and they prescribed more meds. I go back on February 1st. This is just DAMN RIDICULOUS! I took last week off from work but have to go back to work on Monday (Tomorrow), but I have bad headaches, and I stay nauseous, and dizzy. Oh did I mention I work with kids?? This should be interesting... But the best part... this is all costing me close to 8Gs! Yep you read that correctly... close to $8000 of which my insurance covers about $1500! AND THEY NOT EVEN DONE! I currently have 2 loans out and a family member has a loan out to help me pay but I have to make payments on all three loans. SMDH....

In the midst of this I was thinking okay, I can deal with this, I'll get that income tax money and pay off at least one of these damn loans to get ahead. YESSSSS! That is a good plan! So I filed my taxes last week and found out that I DAMN IT OWE! Come On, Can I catch a break here! So I have 3 loans to payback and I now owe the damn government.

I got an interesting letter in the mail last week.... A house I owned in NY back in the early 2000s was taken from me before I moved to Texas and Wells Fargo said they were going to foreclose on it. Why did I get a letter last week saying that Wells Fargo sold that mortgage to another mortgage company and this company wants payment! Wait?? WHAT?? This is 20 damn 17! Seriously???

I also got a letter last week from my current apartment management office saying that my rent will increase by $50 starting in February... Okay BREATHE..... I can handle this.... Don't Flip Out!

I'm Tired, I'm Hungry (because you know I can only eat things like jello, yogurt, apple sauce, etc smdh), I'm Broke, I have a Headache, I'm Dizzy, and I'm Nauseous! But you know what I'm not?? I'm NOT GIVING UP! I know why people go crazy and start flipping out on folk, because MAN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! I don't believe in luck (good or bad), and I don't believe in coincidence. I DO BELIEVE that God has a plan and the enemy has an attack plan to counter it. But I'm good because I know God Got This! HE can and HE will take this and turn it around for my good. I know that someone out there is worse off than me so I STILL call myself BLESSED in the midst of it all!
To make myself feel better I took my last $10 and bought my Buddha a Paw Patrol Spin Brush and some Paw Patrol toothpaste! That smile made all things better!

But Yep I'm standing on this word... 

Romans 8:28King James Version (KJV)

28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Let Go And Let God! I'm Good because God Got This!

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Wednesday, January 25, 2017

So Trump Is President...Now What?

I am trying to figure out why people are acting like Trump is the worst President to ever sit in the White House (That is  not yet a fact and remains to be seen!). There was an election and Trump won, period. So we move on with our lives. Every President has had lovers and haters, good policies and bad policies, people who liked what he was doing and people who did not like what he was doing, supporters and detractors. There have always been protests for and against things. THIS IS ALL NOTHING NEW!
What we need to do now is what we always do... Move On, Live Life, Do You!
You STILL have to get up and shower. You STILL have to go to work/school. You STILL have to pay bills and buy groceries. Life STILL moves on.
All the comparisons between Obama and Trump are as senseless and asinine as all the comparisons between Bush and Obama were.Those comparisons did nothing for the administration, nothing for you. They benefited NO ONE! All of you who are posting , tweeting, and chanting about wanting 4 more years of Obama... well guess what? IT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN. OBAMA HAS LEFT THE BUILDING! You need to accept that fact and move on!
I personally DO NOT WANT to see 4 more years of the Obama family in the White House because I spent the LAST 8 YEARS fervently praying that some Radical, Racist, Crazy Ass nut job would not ASSASSINATE THE FIRST BLACK PRESIDENT!
Oh yes Obama broke down some barriers. he showed ALL children that hard work, education, passion, and hope can possibly get you to where you want to be. YOU CAN BE AND DO ANYTHING YOU PUT YOUR MIND TO... He ALSO showed what an EXTREMELY RACIST WORLD WE STILL LIVE IN! He may have been the MOST DISRESPECTED PRESIDENT of all time! I don't wish more of that blatant hatred and racism on him and his family. NO, LET THE OBAMAS MOVE ON. I say, Obama family GO WITH GOD AND DO YOU!
Obama OUT!

People YOU need to get out YOUR feelings and make the best of YOUR LIFE. Don't be lying in your casket while they are saying He/She sat on the computer and whined all the time. He/She was very adept with cyber bullying. He/She was very active on social media! NO, NO, NO! Let them say things like He/She lived an awesome life. He/She was very active in the Community/Church! He/She LOVED & LIVED an abundant life! He/She left behind an awesome legacy.
I'm not saying be oblivious to what is going on around you but what I am saying is DON'T LET WHAT IS GOING ON AROUND YOU DICTATE YOUR LIFE! YOU NEED TO LIVE! Live On Purpose! God Got This, He Has A Plan!

Thank you Obama family, Enjoy your lives!

Peace & Love!
Regina OUT!

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Tuesday, January 24, 2017

I Can Smell Your Self Righteous Bullying... Get Over Yourself!

Guess Who's Baaacccckkkkk! Did y'all miss me??? Probably not cause I can hear the echo coming through my computer LMAO! It's all good though!

I only came back online because as usual BLACK FOLK ARE WORKING MY NERVE!!
Black people have NOT mastered UNITY but you know what they have mastered...SELF-RIGHTEOUS BULLYING in the name of all things Black! It always amazes me how black people can always vocally judge the actions, thoughts, lives, and hearts of other black people if it is not what they feel black people should be thinking and feeling.

So let me explain...

I loves me some Chrisette Michelle! However right now all over the Internet and social media black people are slamming her, discrediting her, disrespecting her, blacklisting her, etc. According to black America right now she is the biggest coon around! Why? Because she sang at Trump's inauguration. Some are saying she only did it for the check, they are saying she is a sell out, she's a coon, she's a clown, and she's the downfall of black people!... Really... Chrisette is the DOWN FALL of Black people?? HALF OF YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HER OR HER MUSIC BECAUSE SHE IS NOT MAINSTREAM OR COMMERCIAL ENOUGH FOR YOU! They are praising Jennifer Holiday who refused to sing at the inauguration, but she said she backed out due to death threats. DAMN! DEATH THREATS??? Black folk are that mad, they are threatening to KILL people just for being around Trump? Come On y'all it's NOT that serious! We have had good and bad Presidents before and we will again. Hell half of y'all didn't even like Obama until he was leaving now y'all miss him? FOH!! But folk are calling Steve Harvey a coon and sellout as well for meeting with Trump! But what is there to gain by NOT meeting with Trump or NOT singing at the inauguration? You Black folk need to get out of your feelings and get your minds right! SOMEBODY has to be present, SOMEBODY has to attend, SOMEBODY has to show up! If you all say no than God will appoint SOMEONE ELSE!

Black people are ALWAYS so quick to jump on a black band wagon and bash other black people for not being black enough! Blacks are some of the biggest bullies around. Always so righteous! Always so black! Always ready to revoke somebody else black card (They took mine long ago cause I'm not BLACK ENOUGH! LMAO). Hey I'm not mad at at Chrisette for singing. If God laid it on your heart than damn what the world says, do it! GOD CAN, GOD HAS, GOD WILL USE ANYONE HE CHOOSES TO. So if NOT ONE BLACK person decided to show up at the table who would be there to represent??
You don't know that woman or her heart but you choose to stand on your Self-Righteous podium of blackness to judge her and her entire life/career? And y'all are actually PRAISING Spike Lee for denouncing her and her Blackness? Yo! Spike Lee don't speak for me and his interpretation of blackness and Brooklyn is NOT my interpretation! I have never been a Spike Lee fan because his views of black life did not match my views of black life.
Chrisette Michele SHOWED UP when others would not! But she was there with Travis Green
(a Black gospel artist) but y'all not slamming him... but wait do y'all even know who Travis Greene is? Probably not LOL! Get Enlightened!

So I will close with this.... Bullying is NOT OKAY! Let GOD use you no matter what ANYBODY has to say! Only God knows what the plan and end game is, all you have to do is SAY YES, BE PRESENT AND DO YOUR PART! I think Travis Greene and Chrisette Michelle represented God very well!


Praise Him!!

Oh and please remember ... You don't have to agree with me! Because I actually don't care if you do or not! It's good to be back! PEACE!

Regina! (STILL ME IN 2017)

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Saturday, April 30, 2016

Hello? Is Anyone Out There? Is This Thing On?

Hello World!

It has been a long while since I have visited you via this blog! I have NOT been doing anything Fancy, Fabulous, or Fantastic. Nope , I have just been doing the regular, everyday things that people generally do. You know WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK, WORK (said in my best Rihanna voice!)

I did however finally move into my own apartment back in February! (Yaaaayyyy!)

It may seem weird to you but this is the FIRST TIME I have lived TOTALLY ALONE! I mean no husband, no kids, no grandkids, no sister, no mother, JUST ME! It is a fabulous feeling. I don't have to worry about thinking about other people, such as making sure my music is not too loud, or making sure to buy the kind of food that everyone likes to eat, or making sure the babies or grand babies are not too loud, or making sure there is enough room/space for everyone. Living with others can be draining and tiring sometimes.

But one thing I DO NOT like about living alone is having to put things together myself! Uggghhhhh! I AM NOT that DIY type of chick. I bought a desk that came in what seemed to be a HUNDRED PIECES! But hey I got it together... FINALLY (and it took the ENTIRE weekend!).

Anyway, I am still decorating and buying little things here and there (when I am not drowning in rent and bills!). But all in all I am very pleased with myself! I love the peace and quiet of being alone. I LOVE being an Empty-Nester!

Oh, Hey, speaking of DIY. My daughter and I went to a junk/antique sale a few weekends ago and I found this cute little bench that I kind of liked. But being so anti-DIY I came back to look at it 2-3 times before I decided to buy it. It was a cute little piece but it needed a paint job and to be recovered. Did I already say that I DO NOT DO DIY STUFF??? So my daughter convinced me that she and her grandmother would do the project and it would not take long, so I finally gave in and bought the bench. the before and after pictures are below. SHOUT OUT TO THE DIY TWINS (that is what I call my mother and my daughter because they LOVE that stuff) they did an AWESOME JOB! I had to go with them to the fabric store (Ughhh, Shudder, Oh to shudder means to tremble convulsively, typically as a result of fear or revulsion.) 
And I even helped a little (for like 2 minutes! LOL!).



My 2 Minute Input!

So any way that is a quick update on my sooooooo exciting life! LOL! I am completely thankful, that God continues to bless me!
So... What have you guys been up to?

Peace & Love All

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Monday, August 10, 2015

Sunshine VoxBox! Yaaayyy!

I have spent the last couple of weeks testing and reviewing the treasures I received in my Sunshine VoxBox! For those of you who don't know I joined the Influenster Community and as a result I occasionally receive VoxBoxes of treasures to review and test and then give my honest opinion on. You too can join Influenster and receive your OWN FREE BOX of goodies! Click HERE!
So anyway since it is summer time I received this Sunshine VoxBox of goodies! The contents of my box were...

Vaseline® Intensive Care™ Aloe Soothe Spray Moisturizer
This product gives you smooth feeling skin but most importantly IT WILL NOT SPILL or MAKE A MESS IN YOUR BAG! Great product for Summer on the Go!

SinfulColors Professional Nail Color
Ooooo! I absolutely LOVE this color!! It has lasted a full week on my nails (that's good for me!)

Infusium 23 Moisture Replenisher Leave-in Smoothing Crème enhanced with Avocado and Olive Oil
I was already a fan of Infusium Conditioner, BUT NOW I am in LOVE with this Infusium Leave In Conditioner! It is thick enough that it does not run all down my face and neck But NOT so thick that it causes a nasty build up! The perfect balance for my natural hair!

Dickinson’s Original Witch Hazel Daily Refreshingly Clean Cleansing Cloths which also came with 3 coupons for $3.00 off (the product only retails at about $3.99!)
Witch Hazel has always been the best astringent/toner for my skin (despite the smell!) and now with Witch Hazel wipes I can conveniently carry them in my purse and use them whenever needed during this hot Texas Summer!

Blue Diamond Bold Sriracha flavored Almonds

 I actually thought I would not like these, because I am not an Almond eater, and I am not a fan of spicy foods. HOWEVER, they were surprisingly enjoyable. The BOLD SRIRACHA flavor was actually pretty good! And my grandson liked them as well!

 Those two little hands you see in the background belong to my 1 1/2 year-old grandson trying to swoop in and snatch some more almonds! he actually liked them!

 And a coupon for a free bag of BarkThins Snacking Chocolates

  I have not had the chance to taste these yet because the store I went to only had the pumpkin seed and the pretzel BarkThins (neither of which I want!) I am looking for the blueberry BarkThins, hopefully I can snag them in the next few days!

Well, There you have it! Awesome Summer Products! Go out and get yours today! all of these items are sold in various stores, such as Walmart, Walgreen, and Target!

**I of course received these products complimentary for testing purposes. All reviews and opinions are purely my own.**

Have an AWESOME DAY All!

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