If you are a single mother one of the hardest jobs you will ever have is trying to raise a boy to be a man. I was married for 11 years after about 5 of those years I knew that I had made a grave mistake. The best thing to come out of my marriage was the sperm which helped produce 3 of my 5 wonderful children. I have 5 children, 3 from my marriage with my husband and 2 I had prior to my marriage. In spite of the 2 sperm donors I must say that my children turned out very well. I have not had "too much" drama with my bunch!
It is hard being a single parent but it is even harder being a single parent while still married! By the sheer grace of God I got through the teen and young adult years with my children. And while I can not say I have been the best mother, I KNOW I was not the worst! I did the best I could do and that counts for a lot!
So back to my original question... What does it take to raise sons?
It takes consistency. It takes tenacity. It takes strength. It takes prayer. It takes fearlessness.
But most importantly, it takes the Grace & Mercy of God! Without the grace of God, I Never Would Have Made It!
The one thing a single mother cannot teach a boy is how to be a man. I did not really have a strong male input when I was growing up. My mother and father divorced when I was young. There were irreconcilable issues after my dad returned from the Vietnam war which just could not be fixed. As a result my father became a distant observer in my life. He loved my sister and I but was not mentally or physically able to contribute much to the parenting, which fell all on my mother.
However, in observing my maternal grandfather I learned a lot about how a real man cares for his family. My grandfather was the strong, silent type. He did not talk much but his presence was always felt in his home. He worked hard and provided for his family. He was loved and respected by ALL who knew him! One of my sons reminds me very much of my grandfather. On this blog you hear a lot about my son Military Man (older son) but there is less known about my son, formerly known as "The Graduate".
I don't know how but I do know that my grandfather has influenced my son's life. Through the sheer grace of God I have managed to raise to AWESOME men, The protector (Military Man) and the provider (The Man) and I praise & thank God for them both!
Do you have sons? What does it take to raise sons?
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