Thursday, May 9, 2013

The Lesson In The Blessing...

BABY ON BOARD!  This is what we say now when we get in the car with my youngest daughter because she is pregnant!  She is a few days away from her fourth month and she is having a BOY!  Yes, I am excited ... NOW!  Nevertheless, that was NOT my initial feelings.  Being a Christian of course, pre-marital sex is a NO-NO in my book.  I think most mothers have that same cringe when a teenage daughter utters the words "I'm pregnant".  Through a mother's mind rushes all of the obstacles, the issues, the problems, that their daughter will undoubtedly encounter.  Issues with school, work, childcare, future expectation, the father of the child and a myriad of other issues run through the head in the 10 seconds it takes your daughter to say "I'm pregnant".  
I was no different.  As the words escaped her mouth, I felt something inside of me break.

WHY, WHY, WHY would she do such a thing?  Didn't I train her better?  Didn't I teach her the principles?  Didn’t I give her the love and nurturing she needed so she would not have to seek fulfillment in the wrong way?  Didn’t I give her enough GOD?  I failed..., as a parent, as a mother, as a Christian, I failed.  I am a Christian, with an unwed, pregnant, 19 year old daughter.  Yes, I failed.

So, after I went through my pity party for one, I actually prayed.  God had to speak to me because I was so convinced of my failure.  However, what it took me sometime to realize is that I was internalizing the entire situation, when in reality IT WASN'T EVEN ABOUT ME!  I know that as a parent I did the best that I could.  I know that I gave her the love she needed.  I know that she has the principles of the bible, she KNOWS God's word.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 For This is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.
Romans 13:13
Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.
I Peter 2:11
Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul.

So in essence, I DID MY JOB!  This is not an indictment against her or me, this is life, and we have to live it!  As a parent, I trained and taught but the rest is all up to her and God.  My job now is to love and support.  I know that I have trained her and laid the groundwork and foundations...

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I cannot live her life for her; I cannot shield her from the complexities, the hardships, the pains, or the joys of life.  I can AND DO pray for my children.  Pray that God's will is done in their lives.  Pray that they are protected from evil, and enlightened by the Holy Spirit.  I pray that they become sensitive to Gods voice, listen, and obey.  However, mostly I pray that as they go through their lives, traveling the path that God already knows they will travel that HE is with them every step of the way!
What is done, is done, and cannot be undone right?  Than flip the script and ENJOY it!
Life teaches us lessons.  Some we learn the easy way and some we learn the hard way; I guess the only thing that really matters is that we LEARN THE LESSON!  The lesson that I learned was that in ALL THINGS God is in control.  Moreover, in ALL THINGS we have to learn to LET GO!  Let go of the disappointment, let go of the anger, let go of everything that will hinder our own personal growth and our blessings.  Acknowledge that we alone cannot fix everything, someone greater than us can help us handle it.  A life, a baby is a blessing, not everyone can produce this bundle of joy and not everyone is allowed to...  What an honor!


Be Blessed!

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I feel ya because we are to train up our children in the nuture and admonition of the Lord. OAN: when I got pregnant out of wedlock and was oh so upset a friend reminded me that not all women can have babies. She was barren. And babies are a gift from God. So trust God and thank Him for the gift.


You know gina I was sixteen when I got pregant and didn't want a child still in high school and all I wanted to to get rid of it.wasn't trying to.have a kid. But your mother been there for me she was going to help me out to turn things around and o was getting bigger so when that time came to do it I had to go through a two day process and my child would been born dead and I said hell no I am keeping my baby and I am very glad and grateful I did that cause look at my son now sooo proud of him and thanking GOD each and every day for him. My mom wasnt too happy either but she still love me and I did a great job raising mine and my mom love winston just as much. Actually pregant at sixteen had him at the age seventeen, But still got my education.


Girl we teach no ring NO thing! NO wed NO bed, but they have to learn I guess on there own. You did your JOB! GOD will do the rest so smile grandma! I can't wait to see them pictures!


I love you to ma...and yes you did do a great job raising me....I bet it was hard finding out your prego while still in school...I look at these girls now and sometimes feel bad...only because alot of them act like they are grown and think they know everyrhing...then the parents don't make it awny better...they allow their lil girls to do the things they do...and I love you to J Regina are the big sis that i never had...

Da Mrs. 10 May, 2013 13:32

Without God's action the act of sex is just two people communing. God gave that act life. He does not do that lightly, He is on purpose. You are a great mother the fact that you considered God puts you in the right place with Him. God always blows are mind always.


So I can't hit her? Oh, OK. It would be wrong to trip her, because it might hurt Jacob. Why did she have to name him after me? UGH grandchildren.

OK, I'm done, we can move forward now. (-: Wow, that's a perverted looking smiley face. lol

Gee, I had the pleasure of watching you and your sister raise your children and I think the 2 of you were pretty good mothers considering ya'll had a crazy woman for a mother. You'll be fine, she'll be fine, and who knows maybe he will carry Deddy's mantle. lol

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