BABY ON BOARD! This is what we say now when we get in the car with my youngest daughter because she is pregnant! She is a few days away from her fourth month and she is having a BOY! Yes, I am excited ... NOW! Nevertheless, that was NOT my initial feelings. Being a Christian of course, pre-marital sex is a NO-NO in my book. I think most mothers have that same cringe when a teenage daughter utters the words "I'm pregnant". Through a mother's mind rushes all of the obstacles, the issues, the problems, that their daughter will undoubtedly encounter. Issues with school, work, childcare, future expectation, the father of the child and a myriad of other issues run through the head in the 10 seconds it takes your daughter to say "I'm pregnant".
I was no different. As the words escaped her mouth, I felt something inside of me break.
WHY, WHY, WHY would she do such a thing? Didn't I train her better? Didn't I teach her the principles? Didn’t I give her the love and nurturing she needed so she would not have to seek fulfillment in the wrong way? Didn’t I give her enough GOD? I failed..., as a parent, as a mother, as a Christian, I failed. I am a Christian, with an unwed, pregnant, 19 year old daughter. Yes, I failed.
So, after I went through my pity party for one, I actually prayed. God had to speak to me because I was so convinced of my failure. However, what it took me sometime to realize is that I was internalizing the entire situation, when in reality IT WASN'T EVEN ABOUT ME! I know that as a parent I did the best that I could. I know that I gave her the love she needed. I know that she has the principles of the bible, she KNOWS God's word.
1 Thessalonians 4:3 For This is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.
Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy.
I Peter 2:11
Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul.
So in essence, I DID MY JOB! This is not an indictment against her or me, this is life, and we have to live it! As a parent, I trained and taught but the rest is all up to her and God. My job now is to love and support. I know that I have trained her and laid the groundwork and foundations...
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
I cannot live her life for her; I cannot shield her from the complexities, the hardships, the pains, or the joys of life. I can AND DO pray for my children. Pray that God's will is done in their lives. Pray that they are protected from evil, and enlightened by the Holy Spirit. I pray that they become sensitive to Gods voice, listen, and obey. However, mostly I pray that as they go through their lives, traveling the path that God already knows they will travel that HE is with them every step of the way!
What is done, is done, and cannot be undone right? Than flip the script and ENJOY it!
Life teaches us lessons. Some we learn the easy way and some we learn the hard way; I guess the only thing that really matters is that we LEARN THE LESSON! The lesson that I learned was that in ALL THINGS God is in control. Moreover, in ALL THINGS we have to learn to LET GO! Let go of the disappointment, let go of the anger, let go of everything that will hinder our own personal growth and our blessings. Acknowledge that we alone cannot fix everything, someone greater than us can help us handle it. A life, a baby is a blessing, not everyone can produce this bundle of joy and not everyone is allowed to... What an honor!
LIFE is a BLESSING, LIVE IT, and PRAISE GOD for it!
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