Now that Mother’s day is over and safely behind us and
hopefully the residue is gone, I can tell you why I broke up with Mother’s day.
I know it is shocking and came as a surprise to me as well. Matter of fact I
have not even broken the news to my children yet! It was not like an epiphany or
a sudden realization, it just gradually dawned on me. I went on Facebook a few
times on Mother’s day and of course you can imagine… The only thing in my
news feed was Happy Mother’s Day, Happy Mother’s Day, Happy Mother’s Day, which
in and of itself was not bad. It was just really tiring having to try to
respond to all of that and sending private Happy Mother’s day messages, remembering
who to send them to and who not to send them to.
Is it wrong to think that the woman who births you should
receiver flowers, and dinners, and gifts, and phone calls, more than once a
year? Why does society think it is okay to give a mother flowers only on Mother’s
day? Random flowers are just as nice. In fact random gifts are nicer because they
are unexpected. I would not mind flowers just because or a breakfast/dinner
just for the heck of it. A phone call like Stevie Wonder said, “I just called
to say I love you, I just called to say how much I care”. Why do you think it
is okay to call your mother only if you want something? Or go visit just to
have her cook for you, or sew for you, or do your laundry, etc. I’m not saying
those things are wrong, but what I’m saying is that your relationship should
not be about just what you get out of it. It should be a relationship of both
parties giving and taking. The bible tells us to honor our mothers and fathers. I does not say honor them once a year.

I can’t imagine the alienation or sadness that might come
from being excluded from special services or presentations or a simple flower
because your child or your mother died. Seems cruel to me. But then again this
is only MY thoughts on the subject. Of course the world will continue on doing
whatever they want to do. So carry on, do you!
I think Mother's Day is an over commercialized opportunity for corporations to make money (florists, card companies, jewelry companies, etc.) much like the big corporate rip off that is valentine's day, but that's another story! If you are interested you may want to read the origins of
Mother’s Day HERE and HERE. I found it interesting (and a testament to how a good idea can
turn out being a bad mistake!).
This is not a criticism or condemnation on anyone else, on what you may do or don't do, feel or don't feel. Do you just as I'm going to do me!
As always this is my opinion and my thoughts and why I Broke
Up With Mother’s Day!
Now to tell my kids…
Regina
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Good post. Now you know why, when you, your sister or the grands ask me what do I want for Mother's Day; I say that I want nothing. Love me everyday. You don't have to agree with me; but LOVE me EVERYDAY.
My heart goes out to women who want to be mother's, but for whatever reason do not have children. My heart also goes out to children whose mother's for whatever reason, were not able to mother them. I think that God's plan was probably that the women who want to mother would find themselves in a position (whether through jobs or relationships/friendships) to help mother those children, whose mother's were not able to mother. So everybody is covered.
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